The issue of forgiveness is so important to our lives as believers, especially our families, I thought I would use this blog to make a major point about forgiveness.
Forgiveness can only be offered by the one who was hurt and is to be extended even when the other person doesn’t apologize.
“But Mike, that’s not fair,” you say. I know. It’s grace. The same grace Jesus extends to us, we are to extend to others.
Forgiveness is releasing the other person of the expectation they can fix what they did. They can’t. Once hurt, the hurt is yours to deal with. We take our heart to Christ in prayer and find our healing there. Christ is the only source of healing for the soul.
Then, you extend forgiveness to the other and as best you can repair the relationship. I know this isn’t always possible, but as much as you can, restore people to your life.
How can we do this? We do it because we are forgiven. As we meditate on Christ’s loving forgiveness of us, it makes us more generous in our forgiveness toward others. You cannot swim in the lavishness of His grace and then be stingy in love toward others. It just doesn’t work that way. To be forgiven is to forgive. This is grace. This is what Jesus teaches us.
So, here’s the hard part: Who needs your forgiveness? Go ahead. Give it to them. It’s what Jesus would want you to do.