“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her . . . However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” (Ephesians 5:25 & 33 ESV)
With the opportunities I have to speak at women’s retreats, I also have the privilege to privately share and pray with a lot of women. One thing that has come to my attention is that we have an epidemic of women who do not feel loved or cherished by their husbands. It’s heartbreaking to hear their stories and I myself have been. I know the pain.
What is a woman to do? I’ve spoken to some who have spent time and money trying to work their bodies and faces into a piece of perfection in hopes that their husbands will wake up and turn their affections towards them.
Still others who have tried to ‘change’ and to become the woman their husband thinks he wants, whether that be a golfer, a hunter or whatever his sport of choice is. Neither of these groups are ‘happy’ nor successful in their endeavors to win back their men.
For those of you who are holding your breath, wondering what the answer is and hoping the next paragraph will contain a eureka moment . . . I’m sorry, I have no secret to changing a man’s heart or mind.
But, we do have the answer in how to change our own. When rejected by the one person you so want acceptance and love from, dig down deep into that pain and bring it to the One who will never reject or forsake you. He is the husband who laid down His life for His bride and He loves you dearly.
So put away the war paint and spandex and run into the arms of your Savior. He will fulfill all your hearts’ desires and help you to see yourself as He does; perfect and formed in His own likeness. As you embrace yourself and the scriptures, it will be easier to love and respect your husband regardless to whether it’s reciprocated.
Father, so many of your daughters are hurting deeply. Holy Spirit, please come and fill us with your love and acceptance, filling each crack and crevice of our broken hearts. Thank You that You don’t require us to look a certain way or be anything but who You've made us to be!
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