Diffusing Anger in Your Marriage

Description

Here are a few suggestions that will help you replace the old, unhealthy ways of responding with new, healthy, and God-honoring emotional responses.

Be aware of anger. One of the many myths about anger is that a person with an anger problem shows it through his or her appearance and actions. However, a person with a seemingly calm demeanor can stuff anger and explode when least expected. People need to identify what makes them susceptible to anger, how their bodies respond to anger, and what physical manifestations of anger they adopt when enraged.

Accept responsibility for anger. It’s easy to blame others for our problems. You often hear people say, “So-and-so made me angry.” Blaming a personal reaction on someone else is not appropriate. People don’t lose their tempers; they choose their tempers.

Identify the source of anger. Anger is a secondary emotion that is experienced in response to a primary emotion such as hurt, frustration, or fear. Anger is usually a defense mechanism against being hurt. Frustration is a large part of anger. Frustration occurs when expectations and personal goals aren’t met. The things that frustrate people are usually not very important. Identifying frustrating personalities or situations will prepare a person for handling similar encounters in the future.

Choose how to invest anger energy. You can’t always control when you will experience anger, but you can choose how you will express it. With God’s help, you can find creative and constructive ways to deal with anger. Handling anger well involves open, honest and direct communication. It involves speaking the truth in love. It involves declaring truth and righting wrongs. It involves being open to an apology or explanation and seeking to work toward an agreement.

For many, both the experience and the expression of anger have become a habit. Habits can take some time to break. The good news is that, with God’s help, you can change and grow. As you allow the Holy Spirit to fill you, you can replace the old, unhealthy ways of responding with new, healthy, and God-honoring emotional responses.

Please register for a free account to view this content

We hope you have enjoyed the 10 discipleship resources you have read in the last 30 days.
You have exceeded your 10 piece content limit.
Create a free account today to keep fueling your spiritual journey!

Already a member? Login to iDisciple

Related
This Year I’m Avoiding Fires That Threaten To Burn Up My Marriage
Lifetree
Coaching UP in Your Marriage
Gary and Barb Rosberg
What's Stopping You? Part 1
Gary and Barb Rosberg
Yes, You Are Married to the Right Person
Brandon A. Cox
Three Keys To Executing Grace
Ken & Beverly Jenkins
Follow Us

Want to access more exclusive iDisciple content?

Upgrade to a Giving Membership today!

Already a member? Login to iDisciple