Consider the Consequences


If there’s an area in your life that’s out of whack, please do something now to change course. Have a positive resolve to truly be the husband and father your family needs you to be.

I can’t help thinking about a dad I know who really is struggling. I’ll call him “Josh.”

Today his family situation is drastically different than it was a year ago, and it’s all because of his own mistakes. He started down a dangerous road and it soon became a habit. Josh had a secret, selfish life that amounted to betrayal of his bride and children.

This year, his secrets came out and the things he values most are forever changed. He lost his job and his marriage is in serious trouble. Josh’s wife says she can never trust him again. His children are trying to understand, but there’s a lot to repair.

Now, I didn’t mention specifically what Josh did. Maybe you can guess, and maybe you’d be right—and maybe you wouldn’t. I’m not concerned with the specifics of his mistakes today.

I’m thinking more about you…

Do you have any secrets that would radically change your life if they came out? Do you have habits or relationships that are inappropriate? Have you made compromises in what you know is right? Consider this your integrity check.

Thankfully, Josh is taking the right approach. He’s meeting regularly with other men who challenge him, encourage him, and hold him accountable as he makes his way back to a responsible life. In his desperation, those friendships and his faith have become his lifeblood—helping him to simply make it through the day.

It took a crisis for Josh to come to his senses. I don’t know most of you reading this, and I don’t know if you’re anything like Josh. I don’t know what your specific challenges and issues might be. But I hope you’ll heed this gentle reminder.

If there’s a part of your life that’s out of whack—whether it’s dishonesty in your job, maybe an affair, irresponsible spending habits, or something else … please do something now to change your course.

Meet with other men to help you and hold you accountable. If you don’t know where to go from there, talk to an older dad whom you trust. He can help you through questions like that.

Have a positive resolve to truly be the husband and father your family members need.

Action Points for Dads on the Journey

  • What does your “year-end reflecting” tell you about ways you could improve as a dad? Give it serious consideration, and ask your wife or someone else close to you for feedback.
  • Are you in regular contact with another dad whom you can talk to about anything and who can ask you hard questions? If not, reach out and seek to create that kind of relationship with another dad.
  • Do you have a teenage son? Give him permission to ask you anything—and you do the same with him.
  • “If you aren’t moving forward, you’re going backward.” Starting now, do something every day to grow in an area of weakness or vulnerability.

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