Compromised Cups


The abuse that a person goes through, no matter what age, should not define them. In Jesus Christ you find your true identity, and He makes all things new.

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV)

I remember reading a pamphlet that taught mothers how to instruct their daughters in purity. It was a tough read for me as it was so foreign and tender to my heart. Having endured sexual abuse from my earliest memory all the way into my teens, I had always stumbled over verses about sexual immorality. The shame I bore from a young age made me sure that I was doomed to perish! And I couldn’t tell anyone, so I battled it alone.

Now the book was comparing women to tea cups. ‘A man has a choice – would he want to choose to drink from a fine, bone china teacup, a chipped, stained mug, or a used, throwaway cup?’ it asked.  Sitting alone as an adult with those words, I broke down. I had always felt different than the girls in Sunday school and youth group, but could never articulate or understand why. Now I did. I had always seen myself as a used throwaway.

Oh how I grieved to finally have someone put to words and visualize what had been in my heart all those years. Not that I still believed that. No, thankfully I had learned in my early twenties:

And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Also he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” (Revelation 21:5 ESV)

What happened to me as a child did not define me. Nor should it define you. We were hurt, robbed, and yes, even damaged . . . but God.

But God.

Say it with me . . . But God!

But God makes all things new when we allow Him to. I no longer see myself as a throwaway  . . . and although I know He sees me as a beautiful, clean, priceless teacup . . . I am rather fine with defining my earthly vessel as a slightly chipped mug – a vessel of clay. I am actually thankful for the dings and marks as they have allowed me the unique opportunity to speak into the lives of women. Women who are still struggling with their identities and believing the lies of their accuser. Women who need to hear the truth. Here is what I know to be true . . .

He makes things new. You are beautiful. Come to your maker and let Him transform your life! Cast off all the labels and lies of the enemy! Jesus wants to repair your heart so that you too can pour His hope and life into others!

Father, we thank You that You love us fiercely and don’t leave us broken. Help us to reach out to someone we can trust and reveal our deepest pains and fears. Thank You for the redemption found at the cross! Thank You that You make all things new! Amen!

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