Come Away with Me!


Have you embraced this lie: "in a time of a 50 percent divorce rate, we're doing well just to stay together." Don't settle for a lie. "Court" your spouse and be romantic.

Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away.
Song of Solomon 2:10

David and I missed out on courting. We married at the ripe old age of sixteen. Then college, kids, work, and just trying to survive seemed to eat up our life together. As we've matured in our love, we have recognized how shortchanged that part of our relationship was.

Over the years, as we became Christians and settled into married life, David and I subtly embraced a lie that seems commonplace today, particularly among Christian couples. The lie is that in a time of a 50 percent divorce rate, we were doing well just staying together. In buying into that lie, we gradually came to settle for much less than God desired in our relationship. We were like the frog who sits in ever-warmer water thinking he's fine, but who is soon to die.

We're grateful that God gave us a wake-up call and challenged us to move away from mediocrity and to pursue abundance. This challenge became clear to us after a trip we took to just play and relax. David really went out of his way to make the trip enjoyable for me. I loosened up and allowed him to take the lead. It was as if he was courting me for the first time.

The courting felt great, but when we got home we soon went back to our old ways: David was preoccupied with everything but me, and I was trying to control everything. Soon, we realized that we had forgotten to bring home with us what we'd found on that trip.

In the marriage context, courting is taking the time every day to say, "I love you" in many small ways. It's a way for couples to make one another feel special and loved. "Coming away" together for reconnection and romance works!

In what special ways can you begin to "court" your spouse today?

Father, help me to take the initiative to "court" my spouse daily.

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