Checking Out Each Other


Few of us welcome an unscheduled or unanticipated spiritual inspection, but these are the friends we need to listen to and take counsel from.

I once had a boss, ‘Leroy’, who would do a walk around my van checking it out on his way into the office. As we started at different times, I never actually saw him do this but was told by friends that he did almost every week. He would inspect the tires for tread, uneven wear, inflation levels, and then duck down and take a look underneath to see if there were any leaking fluids.

Sure enough, he would find the odd problem and bring it to my attention. Then, he would counsel me on where to go to get the issues fixed. I guess that since I was a single woman, he felt he needed to look out for me, which was sweet and very much appreciated ….. But I wasn’t always happy about what he had to say, (eight-hundred dollars for new tires)! I would have much rather spent that kind of money on some swanky new earrings or something that would get me some attention– no one gets excited about car repairs that are unseen! But alas, Leroy was out to make me safe, not flashy.

Do you have a friend who takes time to do a walkabout around you? Someone who’s not afraid to peek underneath your skin or kick a tire or two? While deep down we know this is helpful, their help isn’t well received, is it?

It’s tough to be told that we have a leak or a loose bolt or two. We work so hard at keeping ourselves looking polished and presentable . . . how dare they go deeper than the surface!

Few of us welcome an unscheduled or anticipated spiritual inspection, but these are the friends we need to listen to and take counsel from. Hopefully their heart is in the right place.  And hopefully, we care enough about others and aren’t afraid to speak unpopular truth into the lives of our friends in love as well . . . when necessary.

We ask you, brothers, to respect those who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you, and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves. And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone. (1 Thessalonians 5:12-15 ESV)  







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