Cathe Laurie Speaks!


Cathe Laurie responds to woman in marital distress.

Taken from Greg Laurie's blog on Monday, December 29th, 2008

Cathe Laurie speaks

A lady named Jennifer wrote me on this blog recently about some problems she was having in her marriage, so I asked my wife if she would respond. Here is the original letter as well as Cathe’s response:

Jennifer writes:

I grew up with a strong faith. I moved away from that in high school. Now in my late 20s, God is calling me back.

I was married this year, and it is not going as I imagined. I have never lived in a world with so much arguing and misery. I have never prayed so much in my life, and I’ve never asked for so many prayers.

With all of the battles that I’m fighting, my biggest prayer is that God will use to me to show my husband that there is hope and happiness in life.

Your morning program is the first step I took in coming back to my faith. Some days, your words bring me to tears on the way to work because it’s a small glimmer of hope that God is talking to me.

Life is not good right now, but I have hope that things will be okay. I know that God is the only one that can help me through this and I can only keep praying that my husband will come with me.

For anyone reading this, I ask for your prayers. I know my story is small, compared to Greg’s story of losing his child, but it’s still a struggle that I will keep fighting. I know that God will use this trial in my life to be stronger, more loving and a testament to someone else, but most importantly, hopefully my husband.

Thank you for your morning program. It helps to keep hope alive in my head.

Cathe Laurie responds:

Dear Jennifer,

My heart, along with Greg’s, go out to you in your painful circumstances. Marriage isn’t easy, even when both parties are believers, so let me encourage you, don’t give up! Yes, there is more than a glimmer of hope that God is talking to you and wants to help you through this.

I know from what you write that you imagined a happy, fulfilled life with your husband. But happiness is not possible apart from the Source of true happiness. When you moved away from your faith in high school, you sought to realize your dream apart from the Lord and His plan for your life. That was not possible, but here is the good news, through this pain you have come back to the only One who can help you. His arms are open wide to anyone who comes seeking His forgiveness and help.

The first thing you need to do is pray specifically that God would begin by changing you. This will happen as you shift the focus of your search for happiness from seeking other things to seeking God. Put Him first in your life. He is your peace, your joy and your greatest love.

Reading God’s Word and filling your mind with His precepts you will discover the right way to live with and love your husband. Listening to Christian radio is a start, but nothing can replace your own daily study and devotion time with God.

The second thing that is very important is to get involved in a church. We can help you find one if you let us know where you live. You will find that God will instruct and encourage you through a pastor and the support and fellowship of other believers.

Lastly, know that God has much to say to a young wife in your situation. 1 Peter 3:1-6 gives you a good place to start. You can show your husband by the way you live that he too can discover the joy and peace that only comes from God. This takes time, so be patient with him, and remember how God was patient with you. You have every reason to hope God will use you as you begin to live out what you are learning.

May God be your strength and joy today,



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