Building Up Your Marriage


What positive words can you speak to your spouse today to build up him or her—AND your marriage?

The tongue of the righteous is choice silver. Proverbs 10:20

Teresa and I recently experienced the joy and the challenges of remodeling our home. The contractors laid the foundation, framed, put up plaster­board, painted, and carpeted. We've endured the unending dust, intrusive workers, and complete inconvenience of the whole process. We enjoyed seeing the progress every few days and we love the final product, but the process was indeed painful.

This remodeling process has been a great illustration of how I am supposed to treat Teresa. Like each step the contractors took in remodeling our home, each word I speak or action I take should add to her life, not tear it down. And, just like our remodeling process, some days I see lots of progress, but on other days I feel as if I should scrap the whole project and begin again.

Build up, not tear down. That's easier said than done. But I've real­ized that my tongue is a powerful tool, and God wants me to bring that tool under His control so that my words give great value to Teresa.

I've realized that one way I can ensure that my tongue speaks words that build up is to submit myself daily to the "Ultimate Construction Man­ager." As I give my gripes, irritations, and complaints to the Lord instead of to Teresa, He calms my heart and mind. As I obey Him and complete my job as "joint builder" in our marriage, He allows me to see the beautiful "product" that Teresa and I are building—our marriage.

What positive words can you speak to your spouse today to build up him or her and your marriage?

God, please help me to build up my spouse with my words and actions. Help me rely on You so that I don’t labor in vain.

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