Break the Me Mold


Pastor Jeff Jones suggests breaking the "me-mold" to find ways to serve others more than we serve ourselves.

"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God," (Romans 12:2, NKJV).

I love this verse in Romans because it gives every one of us the freedom to break the mold of the way the world lives. God has designed us to be mold-breakers, so let me give you a couple of examples of how He’s helped me break, what I call, the “me-mold.”

(1) The first time this happened was in 1985 as I was seeking God’s direction for my life. As it often works, He showed me a scripture in Matthew 20:28 that totally broke to pieces my “Me-Mold.”

It says, “Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many,” (Matthew 20:28, NKJV).

This verse just jumped off the page and slapped me right in the face. It’s one of those revelations that I've tried to live out ever since. You see the world’s mold teaches us to live for what we can get. But if you will break that mold, you can begin to live like Jesus and live for what we can give. God helped me to see how I had built my whole life around me-me-me-me-me…and I felt Him challenge me to completely turn that around and start living life to serve others, living to give and not to get.

Think about it; no one has ever been more qualified to be served than Jesus, but He broke that mold and served us by giving His life as a ransom for many. You and I can do that too! Let’s give ourselves away and serve others instead of always serving ourselves.

(2) The second opportunity where God helped me to break my “me-mold” was through Ephesians 5:25 talking about the relationship between a husband and wife.

It says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her…” (Ephesians 5:25, NKJV).

There are two different ways you can look at this verse. One aspect is the ‘Jesus who loves His church’ way. But the aspect I want you to see is the ‘Jesus who wants you to love your wife’ way. I've always felt that my number one kingdom responsibility in serving Jesus Christ with my life was to love Beth Shepard the way He loves Beth Shepard. Now, she’ll be the first to tell you that I've made plenty of mistakes over the last 25 years, but my goal has always been the same—to give my life to her.

But what rocked my “me-mold” was this idea of “giving myself to her” in terms of our work together at the church. As you know, we've been a ministry team for 20 years now; but I've usually been the one out front, because that was our only example. I cringe every time I see the sign for our grand opening of the church with my name prominently displayed in the center. (Before you cast stones at me, you need to know, that Beth was the one who designed the grand opening sign!) But, again…me-me-me-me-me. But that’s just what you did back then. There weren't a lot of husband and wife teams out there. I would get invitations for community-wide ministry meetings, and I would go solo because it was really just a “boys network,” and although it was unspoken – girls weren't allowed.

Then, God showed me one Sunday morning as Beth was teaching in the church. It was as if blinders came off my eyes. Here she was teaching up a storm and the church was soaking it up. So why was this world-class, God-anointed and gifted teacher only teaching just one series a year? You know the answer…let’s say it together… me-me-me-me-me. That was the day God really helped me to break the “me-mold.” But I totally had to get over myself and walk out this transition. She began to teach more series throughout the year and our people loved it, and made sure that they would tell me, over and over and over and over, how much they LOVED her teaching. Which translated into “you stink” for me. It was a tough but necessary season, because as you know me-mold’s can be hard to break. But honestly, ever since we've been sharing the teaching responsibilities at our church we've grown by thousands, all to God’s glory.

So, let’s break the me-mold and find ways to serve those in our worlds more than we serve ourselves. Let’s find ways to empower others to become all that God wants them to be. Let’s give our lives as a ransom for many.

Say It: “Father, today I break the me-mold in my life. Help my eyes to open up to the world around me. Help me to see ways that I can empower others. I choose to give away my life so that You can help me to help others. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

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