Beware of Anger


We must be aware of the serious nature of anger, which leads to resentment, self-destruction and the end of precious relationships.

Matthew 5: 21-26

Be diligent to pursue forgiveness whenever possible.

The process of what got us into our dependency or addiction that led to our dysfunction may have caused a lot of anger build-up in those we have hurt and in us. In the course of our recovery, we need to deal with our anger properly and not cause further hurt.

Because God's Law is a reflection of God's purity and holiness, and because He is a God of details, He gives us specific issues that are to show root causes of sin and unrighteousness. Our behaviors are reflections of our motives, each one leading to another, as a chain reaction. By cutting the top of the link of the sin chain, we can remove most of the problems we cause, experience and endure from others in our personal life, church and even society at large.

We must be aware of the serious destructive nature of anger. Jesus calls us to deal with our anger that so often leads to murder in various forms, from literally killing someone to destroying relationships and escalating small problem into big ones, because our pride is in the way. If we truly desire to be His disciples, we will be committed to reconciliation with others as He is with us (John 3:5; 1 Pet. 1:22-23)!

  • Applying The Sixth Commandment (Exodus 20:13): Murder just does not happen, something leads up to it—and that something is the sin and uncontrolled anger. 
  • "You have heard it said" was a common rabbinic way to draw attention to the lesson and give personal commentary to a Scriptural passage. Jesus was referring to the teachings of the Pharisees, not the Old Testament Law, and taking what they said to task (Matt. 5:21; 27; 31; 33; 38; 43). Jesus is, of course, the ultimate commentator!
  • Reca means "empty headed one" and is a Hebrew colloquialism for contempt, i.e. stupid. Jesus cuts right to the issue of pride and arrogance, the quintessential thing God hates most, and the root cause of all sin, including murder (Job 41:34; 2 Chron. 26:16; 32:26; Psalm 10:4-5; 18:27; 31:18; 56:2; 59:12; 62:10; 73:6-12; 101:5; 131:1; 6:17; Prov. 8:13; 11:2; 13:10; 16:18; 21:4; 24; 29:23; 30:13; Isa. 2:11-21; 13:19; 16: 6; 23:9; Ezek. 28:2; Obadiah 1:3; 1 Cor. 1:6; 2 Cor. 5:12; 7:4; Gal. 6:4; and these are just a few!)
  • "Without a cause" is a right cause, which means anger would be just when there is unrepentant sin (Rom. 1: 18-32).
  • "You fool" refers to verbal abuse and swearing. The Pharisees had very specific words and ways of word usage that were considered wrong and must be avoided. Thus, Jesus countermands them by saying all foul and harmful language is wrong. This should cause us to take an inventory on how we use language and our mouths-to edify or to put down and what Christ expects of our words.
  • Hell fire (Gehenna) refers to the valley of Hinnom, the place where the heinous child sacrifices took place under Ahaz and Mansasseh (2 Chron. 28; 33). Jeremiah referred to it as the Valley of Slaughter (Jer. 7:32). This was the wickedest place a Jewish mind could conceive of and where the first century Jews burned their trash. It also refers to everlasting torment (Mark 9:43-48).
  • Our refusal to deal with sin through repentance will have lasting and dire consequences—both here on earth and for eternity to come!
  • We must be aware of the serious, destructive nature of anger. It leads to bitterness and self-destruction and the ending of precious relationships, which leaves everyone around us and us in utter despair and dysfunction (Psalm 37:8; Prov. 6:16-19; Rom. 12:18-21; Gal. 5:19- 21; Eph. 4:31; 1 Pet. 3:7)! The inward choice to hold onto anger is murder because one will lead to the other—maybe not literally--as a destroyer of relationships.In God's eyes, relationships are the most important things in our lives—besides Him!
  • Do not neglect your motives and the root causes of broken relationships, sin and murder.
  • We have a call to keep the Law! Not every aspect and dietary guideline, although you would be much healthier if you did, but to let it show how much you need the cross! It is essential to the Gospel because without the Law, the Gospel is meaningless; because Christ would not have been needed to redeem us.
  • "Agree with your adversary" gives us an image of God's Heavenly court and how He reconciled Himself to us. Therefore, when we refuse to do so to others, it is an extreme insult to Him.
  • We have a call to keep our relationships healthy by being people who are willing to relinquish pride and seek forgiveness and reconciliation. This is essential before we can go to God and succeed in our recovery (Gen. 4:4-7; Prov. 15:8; Isa. 1:10-15; Jer.6: 20; Amos 5:21-24).
  • What good is it to ask for forgiveness or help from Christ if we are unwilling to do such a small thing for someone else! We are to seek resolution to problems quickly, as they come up. When we do not, they fester, get worse and kill the relationship. So be a person who is willing to reconcile, to solve problems and not escalate them, do all in your power to end it (Eph. 4:26-27)!
  • Last penny (Greek "last" is uadrans, "penny" is "Kodrantes") to the very last  was the smallest and one of the least valuable Roman coins. Jesus is referring to a contrast from the minor debt imprisonment like small claims court (although you could be held until you repaid what you owed and your family may be sold for it) to the Sanhedrin, which was like the Supreme Court.

By being a person who seeks reconciliation, we will avoid needless strife and stress in our lives—especially in our recovery. You have to go to people personally, if possible; do not do so with anonymous notes and phone calls as that does not work or count! This is not to seek blame even if the person caused you harm; you have to seek their forgiveness for your actions. Then, it is up to them and God if they will seek yours if they wronged you. When we make penitence and ask for forgiveness, we have to be careful we do not escalate matters or cause more conflict and strife. How sad it is when secular courts have to go in and resolve deputes between brothers in the Lord! Having an unforgiving attitude is fatal to worship; we cannot truly worship God with a heart of anger, contempt and/or bitterness! When we seek to worship Him in that state, it too, is an extreme insult to Him! This attitude will have lasting consequences into eternity and judgment! If we truly desire to be His disciple, we will be as committed to reconciliation as He is with us (John 3:5; 1 Pet. 1:22-23)!

Mediate on these passages: Ezek. 33:15; Matt. 18: 21-35; Luke 15:11-24; Rom. 12:18

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