Beliefs That Build a Satisfied Heart
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2, NKJV
We have learned some of the ways we can protect and guard our hearts, the wellspring of life, and help them feel safe so they can love openly and fully. But we can’t do it all on our own. The best way to build satisfied hearts in remarriage is to transform our beliefs, so that permanent change takes place in our hearts and is then reflected in every part of our thoughts, words and actions. That’s powerful, and we’ve discovered that it works.
Let us share another story from the Smalley family. When my (Gary’s) grandson, Michael, was ten years of age, he and I launched our own little scientific experiment on his behavior (with the permission of his parents, Kari and Roger, of course). When we began, I had no idea how it would turn out. But when Michael was ten years old, I began to teach him to memorize just a few key Bible verses. Over the next two years as we learned together, I watched Michael’s life and mine be transformed. We were both amazed at the changes, and his parents couldn’t thank me enough. This was a total accident. I had no idea he and I would start changing as much as we did.
My grandson’s actions, words, and thoughts changed from griping, whining and complaining at the age of ten to tenderhearted gratefulness by the age of twelve. By seeing the results of our little “lab experiment” in his life and my own, I became convinced even further how true God’s Word is and how vital it is to learn it if we want our lives to change and our hearts to feel safe.
My time with Michael brought to life Hebrews 4:12, which says that God’s Word is alive and powerful and sharper than a two-edged sword. Jesus says He is the “Word,” and He became flesh and dwelt among us as a gift from God. He also said that if we know the Truth (and part of the Truth is that Jesus Himself is the Word), the Truth will set us free. Memorizing His Word, hiding it in our hearts, is like tucking away Jesus Himself, who lives in us and dwells with us when we accept his gift of salvation. Memorizing the Word is an important aspect of keeping the wellspring of life flowing. It’s a key component of that vertical connection, a personal relationship with God. When we are filled with the Word, which is Christ, we are filled with love because God is love. Then and only then can we overflow His love to those around us.
In my own life over the past eight years, I have watched nearly one hundred Bible verses transform my life in amazing ways, and I know they can transform the love and lives of couples so that they have loving, satisfied, safe hearts.
Following her divorce, Marci found strength and comfort when she memorized God’s Word. “The Scriptures felt like they were pumping new life into me, renewing my mind and healing my heart,” she says. “There are so many verses I have come to love, but one of my favorites is Psalm 107:19-20, which says, ‘They cried to the Lord in their trouble and He saved them from their distress. He sent forth His Word and healed them; He rescued them from the grave.’ What tremendous hope those verses gave me when I was in the midst of despair!”
Other verses that helped restore Marci’s quality of life and heal her heart include Psalm 145:8-9 and Jeremiah 29:11-14:
The Lord is gracious and full of compassion, slow to anger and great in mercy. The Lord is good to all, and His tender mercies are over all His works. The Lord is near to all who call upon Him, to all who call upon Him in truth. He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He also will hear their cry and save them. (Ps. 145:8-9, NIV)
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. (Jer. 29:11-14, NKJV)
“This last verse has taken firm root in my heart,” Marci says. “I believe it with all that I am. It has changed my beliefs and restored my heart. It is TRUE! I am no longer hopeless or helpless.”