Becoming an Expert


Husbands should become experts on their wives. They should know their dreams, disappointments, goals, talents, what makes them mad and what makes them happy.

I have friends who can tell me minute details and statistics on their favorite teams and players.

They know how many laps their favorite NASCAR driver has led over the season. They know the batting averages of the players of their favorite basketball team. And their favorite quarterback? They can tell you if he’s better at home or on the road. But they can’t remember their wives' birthdays.This isn’t cute. It isn’t “just being a guy.” It’s sloppy. It’s lazy.

Husbands should become experts on their wives. No one should know those women better than we do. We should know their dreams, disappointments, goals, talents, what makes them mad, and what makes them happy.

How do you find out these things? You watch.

You look for tendencies (like your favorite teams), trends (like the stock market), and make a note when she wins big (like your favorite driver or pitcher).

You ask questions.

If you had a chance to talk to your favorite player or business leader, you’d have questions. What questions would you ask your wife to know her better?

The standard questions you hear on any sports show would be great. Things like:

“You’ve just won your greatest victory ever. How do you feel?”
“This must be a tough loss for you. Can you tell me how you feel?”
“You seemed to struggle on (lap 200, the 3rd inning, the 2nd quarter) but you were able to turn it around. Tell me, what was going through your mind?”

If your wife was your favorite team and you worked for ESPN, what questions would you ask her? What do the fans want to know about her? After all, you’re her greatest fan, aren’t you?


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