Karen Stubbs encourages married couples to take the time to nurture their relationship. You may need to get away without the kids.

Genesis 2:24

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

You must fight for your marriage, especially after your children are born. It is easy to take our husbands for granted and just believe that they will always be there for us. But, we must nurture that relationship, just like we nurture our children. There is one fact that we, as wives, often forget: our husbands were in our lives first. When children come into our lives, they NEED us, they are dependent upon us and then when they are grown we become dependent on them. Force yourself to get away with your husband. Leave your children with a sitter or with a family member and get away with your first love, your husband.  While you are away, try not to talk about the children, but talk about common things between you as a husband and a wife. Have a good time, laugh together, take walks together and hold hands. You need to stay gone as long as it takes to get back to a younger version of the two of you. 

Your children may resist and cry at the mention of you leaving for a few days, but it is worth it the long run. Children thrive in a home where the mom and dad love each other and are committed to one other. Keep that in mind, as you are packing and feeling guilty. Don’t feel guilty! Go!!!

Prayer

Father,

Give me the courage I need to put my marriage and my husband first right now. I know my children will miss me while I am gone, but I need to reconnect with my husband. I know we still love each other, but it has been a long time since it was just the two of us. Bless our time away and bless my children while we are gone.