Appreciation for Irritations


What if God can use your spouse to help you work on your weaknesses?

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God. Romans 8:28

It's been said that opposites attract. But why? I (David) know a lot of couples who've raised that very question. But it's usually because they feel so frustrated by how different they are from their spouse. I felt that way myself for many years, as Teresa and I were like two very strong magnets who "repelled" one another.

Teresa seemed so rigid. "Nip it in the bud, and do it now!" was her motto. My philosophy for living life was usually, "When in doubt, don't!" At my first sign of procrastination, her diligence and compulsivity was on me like a bulldog. I remember thinking, God, why do I have a wife like this? What were You thinking?

Over time, I came to see the answer. God knew I needed a wife just like Teresa. Although her diligence irritated and frustrated me, I could see clearly that my procrastination and passive resistance were weaknesses. Without Teresa, I would never get some of the most simple (but important) things done. That pesky parking ticket would probably sit on my desk for six months, incurring major financial penalties. Those license tags wouldn't be renewed until I got a ticket for their expiration. The list goes on and on!

God has used Teresa's strengths to convict and change me. He's not finished with me yet, but what I once saw as a "thorn in my flesh," I now appreciate as a vital part of God's plan. I regularly give God appreciation for those little irritations.

What character flaws or weaknesses do you think God wants to change in you today? How do you think He can involve your spouse to make those changes?

Thank You, God for knowing my needs and for giving me a spouse who helps me to work on my weakness.

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