All for One and One for All


We enjoy peace in our marriages when we make our spouses a prior­ity, even over other important things.

The fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. James 3:18

Ken dearly wanted to go to seminary. It had been his life's dream. Kay, his wife, wanted to help him. So together they planned for Kay to get a part-time job outside the home. The kids would have to be in day care for half-days.

About halfway through the year, Ken noticed changes in his wife. Kay lost her temper more often, and she looked pale and downcast. Ken knew his wife had a very difficult boss and that she hated leaving the kids in day care. The situation was tear­ing her apart. Ken knew that his wife came first, and he decided that if God wanted him to con­tinue seminary, He would have to provide funds in another way. Kay needed to quit her job.

God leads us in the direction of His peace. External things may chal­lenge us, but when we're where He wants us, His peace prevails. Ken and Kay had lost that sense of peace. As they prayed together for His direction, each came to express gratitude for one another. Kay wanted to support Ken in this dream of attending seminary, while Ken wanted to provide Kay with a more peaceful daily life.

They didn't have any discernment about what to do, but as they made a commitment to give to one another, they had a sense of oneness and gratitude. They sensed that God was pleased with their care for one another and trusted Him to give additional direction.

The Lord indeed made provision. A week later, Kay was offered stay-at-home work. Now she could quit her job, be home with the kids, and support Ken at seminary.

We enjoy peace in our marriages when we make our spouses a prior­ity, even over other important things.

What steps do you and your spouse need to take today to bring God's peace to your home?

Lord, give me such a longing for peace that I will meet the needs of my spouse over my own.

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