Affair-Proof Your Marriage with Positive Affirmation
The first way to affair-proof your marriage is to season your marriage with affirming communication.
In Song of Solomon 7:1-6 we read of how Solomon affirmed his bride,
How beautiful are your feet in sandals, O prince’s daughter! The curves of your thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a skillful workman. Your navel is a rounded goblet; it lacks no blended beverage. Your waist is a heap of wheat set about with lilies. Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle. Your neck is like an ivory tower, your eyes like the pools in Heshbon by the gate of Bath Rabbim. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon which looks toward Damascus. Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel, and the hair of your head is like purple; a king is held captive by your tresses. How fair and how pleasant you are, O love, with your delights!
Solomon knew it was vital for him to compliment his bride’s body, because, as you read in chapter 1, it is evident that it was an area of insecurity for her.
This Shulamite was a country girl. She said, “Do not look on me for I am dark.” She was tan from working out in the vineyards. And compared with the fair-skinned, pampered ladies of the court, she felt very insecure.
So Solomon very wisely builds her up in the area where she feels most insecure.
Speak affirming words to your mate rather than tear him or her down. If your spouse is starved for positive affirmation, and it does not come from you, it opens a door of temptation. The devil will send someone to give insincere compliments, and if a person is starved for it, they gravitate towards it.
Praise one another lavishly. It is an important thing to do.