Admonition to Agree
Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? Amos 3:3, NLT
Agreeing on where you're going is essential to oneness in a relationship. This kind of unity can start with the simple rule that neither spouse makes a commitment involving the other without discussing it first. It can also include things such as a weekly family night, remodeling plans, or vacation ideas. Each of these encourages "walking together" as a couple or family.
Think about the satisfaction you feel when you've checked each and every item off your "to-do" list, or about that sense of accomplishment that comes with achieving a larger goal. Setting goals for marriage and family can have the same effect. Accomplishing these goals can also bring a deep sense of togetherness and unity.
Assess the following areas of marriage and family as you consider how closely you and your spouse are "walking together":
Finances: savings, tithing, debt reduction, retirement planning, investments, college preparation
Child rearing: overall discipline, potty training, driving privileges, curfews, dating, family devotions, relating to adult children
Holiday traditions: Whose house? how often? how long?
Housing decisions: remodeling, yard, and decorating projects Vacation ideas: Who decides location? alone or with another family? hotel or camping?
Ministry: To church families? focus on outreach? ministry to extended family? ministry beyond our local church?
Health and fitness: meal planning, exercise routines, eating out vs. cooking at home
Individually, these categories for agreement may not seem like such a huge deal. But when taken as a whole, they can spell the difference between unity and division in your marriage.
In what areas do you and your spouse find yourselves in agreement? In what areas do you disagree, and why?
God, may the unity between my spouse and me be a testimony of Your work in our marriage.