A Reply to an Email Sent in Pain


God wants you to heal, but He wants to be the one to heal you. Will you let Him? Will you trust Him completely?

May I continue to find favor in your eyes, my lord," she said. "You have given me comfort Ruth 2:13a NIV

I receive many emails each day from readers; many of those letters are experiencing pain or loss in some way. Today, I am sharing with you a reply I wrote to one of these emails. This reader has suffered great loss in their life recently and they are struggling to make sense of it all. Real heartache. Real pain. I understand that kind of pain. Perhaps this is your story too. If so, I pray this reply would speak to your heart as well. (I am protecting the person’s identity.)

Dear Reader,

The pain in your life is obvious from your email. I don't know how to address you losses, they are so heavy. I can't give you answers for that pain. I can only point you to Jesus. Paul must have felt like that when he wrote in 2 Corinthians 1:8-9a "We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life."

Paul answers the reason why he was suffering these trials at the end of verse 9 through 11: "But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many."

The answer to your heavy heart is Jesus. If you are saved, and I am assuming you are from your email, then Christ came to live His life through you. Jesus said you can't live the Christian life...on your own, "apart from me you can do nothing" John 15:5. If you try to "pray your way through it" or you try to "make yourself feel better", you will fail. You must allow Him to heal your heart. Your heartache was not caused by sin. It is natural to grieve. (note: If your heartache is caused by sin, repent and seek God's forgiveness first. 1 John 1:9)

Dealing with grief will take time and surrender. You must daily admit your insufficiency to Christ. Tell Him how you feel. Confess that you are weak. Paul also said in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." Are your realizing the strength in Christ through your weaknesses?

God wants you to heal, but He wants to be the one to heal you. Will you let Him? Will you trust Him completely? You can choose to "set your hearts on things above, not on earthly things", or you can choose to dwell in your heartache. Don't be ashamed for feeling weak, that's actually a very good place for God to intervene. He desires to do those things which will give Him the most glory. Your losses are big, God stands to gain a lot of glory by healing your heart. He will never leave you nor forsake you. You are in His hands and He cares.

Trust hard today, and see if tomorrow is not a better day. "Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness." Lamentations 3:22-23

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