Men and women have very different perceptions about marriage, love, and intimacy. Men feel loved when they are respected and given physical intimacy. Women feel loved when they are listened to and have quality time alone with their husband. Sometimes you might find yourself in a cycle in which you aren’t getting what you need, so you won’t give your spouse what he or she needs. This affects both of you negatively. Today, learn how you can break this destructive pattern and give each other what you need to restore and safeguard your intimacy.
What's Missing in Your Marriage
Lord, help me to see what my spouse needs most from me and enable me to take the first step—and if need be, unselfishly give to him/her.
Am I denying my spouse what he/she most needs from me?
Without keeping score, and without expecting anything in return, be attentive to what your spouse needs from you. Give it unselfishly.
Deciding to unselfishly meet your spouse’s needs is a great step toward improving your marriage. It takes commitment and dedication, not to mention unconditional love, to put his or her needs above your own. Each day in your marriage, you are faced with choices like that. You can choose to put your spouse first. You can choose to stop the argument. You can choose to break the silence. You can choose to make the change. These choices aren’t easy, nor do they come naturally. They take practice. In the next post, you will learn about two choices you can make every day that will have a critical and positive impact on your marriage.
