Another Step – Sexual Temptation

You cannot overestimate how powerful sex drive is in men. Studies have shown that men think about something sexual every 3 minutes or less. The guys whom I’ve selected for my groups are usually in their early 30’s and they are often “off the chart” with their expectations for sex with their wives.

The internet has become a “silent killer” of marriages through its unfettered access to pornography. Marriage counselors share that internet pornography is playing a role in virtually every problem marriage they see. I’ve had as many as 75% of the guys in one of my mentoring groups where there was some degree of involvement with porn. It’s rampant.

Couple this with an increasing number of unmarried women in the marketplace, fashions that expose more and more skin, and acceptance of sex outside of marriage—the slippery slope into sexual temptation is getting even more slippery.

Years ago, I heard a pastor say, “Spiritual battles are won or lost at the threshold of the mind.” I believe that.

My focus with my mentees is to train them to look away...to change the subject...to “flee” as the Bible says. Of course, you’ve got to step up to this yourself. You can’t export what you don’t have. So “owning” your own sexual behavior, thought life, and your internet scruples is critical. This may just be the time God is calling you to clean up your own act.