If you’re a single man or a single woman in a relationship, this post is for you.
If you’re married, this post is not for you.
Marriage is not a contract. Marriage is a covenant relationship God established for husband and wife to serve and love one another. There will be hard times and you may even notice some of the signs below in your relationship. Don’t quit! God created marriage not just for happiness but for holiness. Whatever your relationship is facing, God can work it out for your good.
4 Signs You Need To End A Dating Relationship Now
1. You are a Christian, and the man or woman you’re dating is not.
Dating is a process that allows you to see if another person would be a potential suitable spouse. It’s also a way to grow in understanding of relationships with other people. If you’re a Christian, your goal in a relationship shouldn’t be simply to have a good time, but to start thinking about building a godly legacy. When outsiders see a husband and wife serving each other like Jesus serves the Church, they’ll get a better picture of who God is (Ephesians 5:22-33).
If you’re a Christian, your goal in a relationship shouldn’t be simply to have a good time, but to start thinking about building a godly legacy.
2. Your life revolves entirely around the other person.
Is it impossible for either one of you to do something independent of the other? You’re not married yet, so don’t act like you can’t live your own lives. Codependent relationships limit the freedom of both people because they’re controlled by the needs and time each other.
Singleness is a unique opportunity for people to be involved in a church community and serve Jesus in ways that married people cannot (1 Corinthians 7:32-35).
3. You care more about the other person than he or she does about you.
It's not love if both people don’t actually care about each other. Relationships are a two-way street, but if it’s only one way, it’s called infatuation. When only one party is committed in the relationship, it’s unreasonable and unhealthy. This often leads to confusion and emotional pain. A good, loving relationship of any type will be beneficial and respectful for each person (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
4. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is an addict.
If your significant other pays more attention to a smartphone than to you, it’s probably an indicator that he or she is addicted to technology. Perhaps there’s another sort of addiction one of you struggles with, like porn or alcohol or excessive shopping. Addictions add strain to any relationship. Those addictions will eventually take higher priority than the significant other, and because our selfish desires are fueled by what we pay most attention to (Matthew 6:19-24; Proverbs 23:1-7).
What your boyfriend or girlfriend needs more than a relationship with you is a growing relationship with Jesus.
If you’re dating someone who exhibits one or all of the signs above, what your boyfriend or girlfriend needs more than a relationship with you is a growing relationship with Jesus.
Pray for that person like you would a brother or sister. Invite them to church. But don’t date. He or she is not ready marriage, and right now, he or she is not God’s best for you. A godly spouse is worth waiting for. A true friend will put the other’s needs before his or her own.
Written by John Weirick
